Still single? How to deal with the social pressures

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Coping with the expectations of well-meaning family and friends can be tough. Pauline remembers what her mother said to her two years ago on her birthday: “Happy Birthday! Since you’re 25 now I guess its time for your St. Catherine’s day hat!” In France, the tradition of St. Catherine’s Day goes back to the Middle Ages, when all the unmarried young ladies would parade through the streets wearing unusual hats in order to get the attention of potential future husbands. Even though Pauline’s career as a childcare assistant was off to a flying start, her schedule was full of parties and time with friends, her mother’s comment conveyed that these weren’t good enough — she should already be married.

Still single? How to deal with the social pressures

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  1. When it comes to discussions on singleness and dating, and even wanting to find a future partner, we need to begin from the beginning, and that beginning is God!

    Many marriages that are happening, although glamorous and beautiful, many of them would not last. You know why? because they did not seek God’s face before they got married, they do not know if that person they married is God’s will for them. God is purposeful in bringing people together, and they each have things that they could fulfill in each other’s lives. God knows how everything that begins will end, and that is why we need to always put our love lives in the hand of God. We need to pray to God to help us stay in purity, and to make us ready, while he brings our kingdom spouse to us, or while he leads us to them. We need to ask God to lead the way, because only God can lead us to the person that is truly right for us. Even then, God is the only person who can ever truly love us fully. A person can love you so much, but because they are human, they are prone to hurting us from time to time. God’s love is perfect, and even when we have a partner who loves us, we still need God’s love both individually and together as a couple in order to keep going.

    God is the King, and he is able to make things work in our favor.

    God says in Jeremiah 29:11
    “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.

    If anyone reading is interested in building a relationship with God, I have a post on that here:

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    -All the best. May God bless you. 

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