Catholic relationship advisers offer five tips to look after your mental health – The Catholic Leader

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By Megan and Nahum Kozak

Catholic relationship advisers offer five tips to look after your mental health – The Catholic Leader

Mental health: Catholic relationship advisers offer five tips on how to keep up your mental health.

By Megan and Nahum Kozak

EVERYWHERE you look, people seem to be talking about mental health and it is no surprise. 

The past 18 months have been a challenge, to say the least. 

With Mental Health Week running from the October 9-16, now is the perfect time to unpack why mental health is so important and what you can do to look after yours.

Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. 

It affects how we feel, think, and act. 

External stressors, like job pressures, family worries, and the ongoing repercussions of a global pandemic can have major impacts on our mental health. 

But it’s not all bad news.

For a long time, mental health has been a subject we intuitively knew was important but did not really talk about. 

It lacked the same governmental funding, professional credibility, and social understanding of its physical counterpart. 

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The past year-and-a-half has brought this importance of mental health out of the shadows and into societal consciousness. 

#SelfCare and #MentalHealthMatters have become the hashtags of choice, “wellbeing” a new buzzword across professional industries and seeking professional support for our mental health and relationships is the new normal.

In our psychology and counselling practice, we work with individuals and couples across Australia to support their mental health and relationships. 

Based on our research, expertise and experience, here are five simple tips to help you build positive habits for your mental health.

Tip One – Sleep 

Resting: Sleep is an important part of mental health.

Ahh, sleep… 

The thing you avoid as a kid, pretend you don’t need as a teen, and dream of as a parent. 

For many years, research has continued to highlight the correlation between sleep and health. 

You might think that limited or interrupted sleep just leaves you feeling irritable, but if poor sleep continues for an extended period of time, it can have long term health consequences. 

Research from 2017 suggests that the relationship between sleep and mental health is complex and cyclical. 

The poorer our sleep, the more anxious or depressed we may become – which then, in turn, can result in poor sleep. 

So, it’s important to give our body and brain the best chance at getting some good shuteye.

What can you do? Create a regular routine to prepare for sleep, so that your body feels calm and settled. Take a bath, read a book, turn off devices and avoid caffeine in the evening.

Tip Two – Exercise and Healthy Food

Keeping active: Exercise and eating well lead to a healthier mind.
Keeping active: Exercise and eating well lead to a healthier mind.

We all know that healthy food and exercise is important, but often – when we’re not feeling our best – these are the first things to go. 

We all know what it’s like to find ourselves knee deep in a tub of cookies ‘n’ cream ice-cream, wondering if our pyjamas could pass as daywear. 

Our physical and mental health are intrinsically linked, so if you are looking for a sustainable mood-booster, it doesn’t get much better than nourishing food and exercise. 

When we eat well, our brains get the micronutrients required to function. When we exercise, our bodies release endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin – chemicals which make us feel happier.

What can you do? Create a daily or weekly routine, which includes about 30 minutes per day to move your body. It doesn’t need to be an expensive gym – go for a walk or play with your kids at the park. 

Tip Three – Mindfulness and Meditation

Mindfulness: Praying the Holy Rosary is one way for Catholics to meditate.

It’s a busy world. 

We pride ourselves on multitasking and full schedules – listening to podcasts during our commute, folding laundry while watching Netflix, and scrolling our phone while sipping coffee. 

There are very few moments where we allow ourselves to just ‘be’. 

To maintain mental health, it is important to find moments of presence and stillness. 

Mindfulness and meditation have their roots in a number of religions, including Christianity, where contemplative prayer invites us to “Be still and know…”. 

Grounding ourselves, noticing our surroundings, and developing a habit of conscious gratitude has been shown to improve our sense of worth and satisfaction with life.

What can you do? There are many simple ways to incorporate mindfulness and meditation into your daily life. You could make your morning cuppa a ‘mindful moment’ by putting down your phone and noticing what you see, hear, smell, feel and taste. If you want some more guided mindfulness, consider downloading a free app like Smiling Mind.

Tip Four – Social Connection

Social connections: Social distancing and lockdowns, although necessary for public health, have exacerbated the sense of isolation for many people.

Human beings are wired for connection. 

As far back as we can trace, humans have travelled, hunted and lived together in groups. 

With so much social media and virtual connection at our fingertips it may seem that we are more connected than ever, but we are actually in the midst of a loneliness pandemic. 

Social distancing and lockdowns, although necessary for public health, have exacerbated the sense of isolation for many people. 

Research has shown that quality connection with family and friends leads to 50% chance of longevity, stronger immune system, greater empathy and lower levels of anxiety and depression. 

What can you do? Managing lockdowns and restrictions can make connection a real challenge. As much as is possible, build connection into your weekly routine. This can be look like regular coffee catchups with a friend, group exercise, family dinners and zoom calls with those we can’t see face-to-face right now.

Tip Five – Seek Support

Seeking help: It is essential to seek help if you are struggling with your mental health.

When our car makes that funny sound, we have no problem taking it to the mechanic. 

When our tooth aches, we book in to see our dentist. 

When it’s tax time, we find the number for our accountant. 

We seek support and expertise from professionals trained in whatever area we need help with at the time. 

So, when we feel like our mental health or relationship is struggling, there is courage and wisdom in seeking professional support. 

It’s been a tough time for a lot of people –individuals, couples and families – you don’t need to pretend to have it all together. 

Reaching out for help reveals strength, not weakness.

What can you do? There are so many different support services out there that can help! Visit your GP and get a Mental Health Care Plan, then book in to see a Psychologist or Counsellor – if you don’t live nearby a Psychology practice, call and ask if they do Telehealth (most practices offer this) and have your session over zoom. 

If you need immediate support, you can call:

  • Qld Government Mental Health Access: 1300 642255
  • Lifeline: 13 11 14
  • Kid’s Helpline: 1800 551 800
  • BeyondBlue: 1300 224 636
  • Parentline: 1300 301 300

Megan and Nahum Kozak are Co-Founders and Directors of Lighthouse Relationships Psychology and Counselling Practice. They work with individuals and couples, face-to-face at their New Farm office and online across Australia. 

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